Do you ever find yourself in a relationship where the other person starts acting like you owe them something?
I know I have. And it doesn’t feel very good.
It usually starts with one party doing all sorts of things for the person without asking. It’s all very nice until one day BAM! There’s an unmet expectation that was never communicated.
This is usually followed by the “you nevers”, “you always”, and “why can’t yous”. Before you know it, you’ve been caught in relationship debt. Is it real? Not for you. But for the other person, you’ve got a bill to pay.
Join Max and I as we explore this topic on today’s Monday Morning with Mike & Max.
Oh yeah, we also go off on our experience of people in relationship to Covid over the last 3 years.
As a coach there’s nothing more valuable to your business than getting in front of your ideal audience.
And with the coaches I’ve worked with this seems to be the biggest barrier to success.
But anytime we start to think about what it takes to get on stage whether it be in person, a podcast or IG, the gears come to a screeching halt. A lack of knowledge about how to actually do it creeps in.
Then the self doubt.
Then the distraction of another certification. BTW, on today’s show Kyle Gray unveils his newest business idea “Certaholics anonymous”.
That’s usually the cycle coaches find themselves in. Don’t know what to do to get in front of more people so I’ll get another cert. Then I’ll finally be able to distinguish the self doubt that’s causing me an eternal internal discomfort of not being good enough.
But what if we could just get to a place where we’re comfortable with who we are. Comfortable with being alive. What would be possible then?
I have no idea, since my life is full of discomfort. But I’ll tell you one thing, it’s much better to seek meaningful work than to try to be comfortable. Yes, the meaningful work will result in challenges and discomfort, but what else are you going to do?
Just sit around in the lap of mediocrity. Not us.
So if you’re ready to dive into a real conversation between two coaches who know how to get in front of people and get them enrolled in your vision you’ve come to the right place.
Men and women are created equal…
But not in all things.
Well at least in the way it’s practiced. I’m afraid people have confused equality with being “identical”. And I can only imagine how boring that world would be.
Instead of seeking fairness I think we can do a better job of honoring and celebrating our differences. To do otherwise is to reject nature, other, or God. However you want to see it.
So instead of focusing on what someone else has that you wish you did. Instead of seeking fairness in whatever single area you want to focus on. And zoom out. Allow yourself to see the entirety of YOUR being. See the entirety of THEIR being.
Just because another may make more money, you wouldn’t want the rest of their life. Your riches are greater than that.
Want the secret to having a perspective that is not only more helpful for the mind to hold, but is actually more close to the TRUTH?
Move the mind from an illusory place of “what isn’t” to a space of reality where we’re focused on “what is”. That is. Illusion is “what is not”, while REALITY is “what is”.
Sounds simple, but if you go about the world while practicing awareness you may notice that your mind gravitates to the illusion… most of the time. This is a great recipe for suffering.
And I’m not about that suffering. That shit is optional. Doesn’t mean it’s easy, but it’s right there in any moment that you want it.
Ok, enough of the sermon. This is one of many topics Max and I dissect on today’s Monday Morning podcast with Mike & Max.
I’m not talking about that fake alpha facade you may be familiar with on reality tv shows.
I’m talking about the real alpha stuff. The alpha with substance. The one that doesn’t have to be the loudest in the room because they know who they are. They know what they’re capable of.
And whether everyone else recognizes it consciously or not, the alpha is who is in charge when everyone else has no idea what to do.
You don’t get there by acting confident. You get there by being competent. Will you be the alpha in every situation? I hope not. That would mean you’re not surrounding yourself with people who are better than you at what you want to get better at.
The path to alpha is filled with humility. A true alpha can put down his need to be right and look good, in order to gain the competence. It’s a long game. Can you look dumb now, so you can be in charge later?
Most people have no interest in this. The path is too frightening and they’ll continue to live a life of mediocrity.
Join Mike Salemi and myself on today’s show as we discuss leadership, hierarchy, violence and the functional purpose of being prepared.
You may think that solving problems through play is a novel idea.
But the reality is, it’s the most foundational way that we develop the skills of curiosity and honing the capacity for focus.
Play is the very first way that we learned… and then things got serious.
Max and I discuss how forgetting to play has hurt us in the past and what we did to lighten the mood and come up with creative solutions to dire situations.
And as great teachers from the past have asked “when was the last time you danced?”. “when was the last time you sang?”,”when was the last time you told a story?”
This is where we can identify when we got “stuck” and had a hard time moving forward.
I know a lot of you either consider yourself a high performer or want to be.
But if you’re not a high performer in relationships then you’re likely holding yourself in the other areas of your life.
Drop in to today’s show with Stefanos Sifandos as we discuss his journey as a high performer inside and outside of relationships.
This is a man of wisdom. Man, or woman, I recommend listening.
Today Max and I discuss what we’ve learned about sex, masturbation, porn, and tantra.
It wasn’t an easy road. In fact, it feels a lot more like stumbling around in the dark.
You don’t have to stumble too far yourself though. In this show we discuss a few things we’ve learned over the years that have enhanced our sex lives and relationships.
What’s it like to put all your fears on the line and approach complete strangers with odd requests?
Today we find out. My guest is Brad Lancaster of the YouTube channel “Discover Connection”.
A filmmaker discontent with the amount of connection he was experiencing decided to put himself in precarious situations and film it. I’ve watched several of his videos at this point and I love every single one.
Join us as we discuss what led him to where he is now and where he’s going.
P.S. Curious about your own ability to connect better? January 8th we’re launching the School for the Living. A major component of what we’ll be doing is connecting better with ourselves and those around us. Go to schoolfortheliving.com
Human curiosity is an interesting thing.
To the uninitiated it is viewed as an assault. When someone is questioned on their beliefs their identity is threatened and defense mechanisms step in to guard our precious self.
Will AI loosen the grip our minds have on who we think we are and lead to enlightenment? Maybe.
It will definitely change the landscape of our world whether we are guided into a higher calling or slip into slavery.
Join Max and I as we wade through the BS of our minds for your entertainment.